If you’ve been wondering, “Am I going through a midlife crisis?” then you’re in the right place. Because today, we’re going to talk about midlife crisis in women and why it’s actually a good thing.
Yep, you read that correctly. If you’ve been feeling restless, stuck, or like the things that used to fulfil you just don’t hit the same anymore, you are not broken. What’s happening is something far more powerful: you’re being called into the next version of yourself.
This so-called “crisis”? It’s really a rebirth. And in this post, I’ll show you how to stop fearing it, start embracing it, and use it as your chance to reinvent life on your own terms.
What a Midlife Crisis in Women Really Is
It’s not just buying a flashy sports car, booking a one-way ticket to Bali, or running off with a personal trainer called Gary. Those are surface-level clichés.
Psychologists like Carl Jung explain it differently. A midlife crisis happens when the life map society gave you – the one filled with neat little boxes to tick off (degree, job, marriage, kids, house), suddenly stops working.
You wake up one morning, look around and think:
“I did everything I was supposed to… so why don’t I feel fulfilled?”
That gap between what you were told would make you happy and how you actually feel? That’s the midlife crisis.
For me, I realised I’d spent years listening to my parents and society about what kind of education I should pursue in order to be “successful.” It wasn’t necessarily bad advice but it wasn’t my truth.
I chose subjects and paths that looked good on paper, rather than ones that truly lit me up. And eventually, that gap between what I studied and what I actually wanted for myself became too wide to ignore.
And if you’re there? Congratulations. Because it means you’re at the threshold where your old life ends and your authentic one begins.
Stage One: Dissatisfaction (and Why It’s Good)
The first stage of a midlife crisis isn’t dramatic. It’s dissatisfaction. A low hum of restlessness that creeps into everything. It’s not just about your job, your marriage, or your body – it’s deeper.
It’s your inner self whispering: “There’s more for you.”
At this point, I started asking myself small but powerful questions:
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How does this activity really make me feel?
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How do I feel after spending time with this person – energised, or completely drained?
And instead of pushing those feelings aside, I followed my intuition. Slowly but surely, I moved towards what felt good, exciting, and energising and away from the things that didn’t.
Rather than fearing the emptiness, I began to see it as space being cleared for something bigger.
Why Sports Cars, Crash Diets and Rebounds Don’t Work
Here’s the truth: new toys, diets, or distractions won’t solve a midlife crisis.
Why? Because the crisis isn’t external. It’s internal.
It’s not about the car, the wardrobe, or the fling. It’s your soul demanding reinvention.
For example, I realised I don’t care what people think of my car anymore. I recently bought an older one and I plan to keep it for years. Why would I spend a fortune just to impress people with my “status”? That’s not me.
Other people might care but I don’t!
Once you stop chasing surface-level fixes and start looking inward, everything changes. You stop patching holes, and instead, you redesign the entire house.
What’s Really Happening: A Rebirth
Carl Jung said that midlife is when the “second half of life” begins. It’s when we stop living by external expectations and start living by our own truth.
Think of it like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. Messy? Absolutely. Uncomfortable? Definitely. But necessary.
This is the time when old patterns die off:
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people-pleasing,
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chasing approval,
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ignoring your own needs.
And what’s born is the version of you who owns her voice, her body, and her choices.
This blog itself? I started it because I followed my intuition. Not everyone around me “gets it.” But that doesn’t matter. Because I get it. It excites me, it lights me up, and I know it will help other women which means I’m living in alignment with my truth.
Midlife isn’t the beginning of the end. It’s the end of pretending and the beginning of your most authentic chapter.
Life After a Midlife Crisis: Reinvention
So what does life after a midlife crisis actually look like?
It looks like reinvention.
You’re no longer following someone else’s script. You’re writing your own.
This is the season for:
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Starting that business you’ve always dreamed of.
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Changing careers to something that actually excites you.
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Creating art, music, or whatever makes your soul sing.
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Deepening relationships that truly matter and dropping the ones that don’t.
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And most importantly – prioritising your health, so you feel strong and energised in the process.
👉 If health and weight are the areas you feel most stuck in right now, grab my free Midlife Reset Guide. Inside, I share practical and actionable steps to help you feel vibrant, confident, and in control again.
This isn’t crisis. This is liberation.
Final Thoughts
So, if you’re in the middle of all this – don’t panic.
You’re not broken. You’re awakening.
A midlife crisis in women is not the end. It’s a beginning. It’s your invitation to reinvent yourself, reclaim your energy, and finally live life on your own terms.
And trust me – life doesn’t end after a midlife crisis. That’s when it really starts.
And if you’re ready for deeper support, I offer 1:1 coaching to help women recover from the midlife slump, lose stubborn weight, and create a life they’re genuinely excited about.
🌱 And if you’re ready to keep the momentum going, check out the following blog: “Stop Waiting to Feel Motivated. Do This Instead (for Women 35+).”
